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How to Stop Lying to Yourself

How to Stop Lying to Yourself

Let me tell you the story about one particular liar that scared me straight.

I was confronted by this liar one day and when I saw her face I almost fainted. She was me.

Yes, you are reading this correctly. It was me. I was the liar.

Now, you’re probably like, what is this chick talking about. right? Here, let me explain.

For the better part of my 20s, I lived a difficult life. I beat myself up and frequently lied to myself. I would tell myself things like, “I was stupid, dumb, and not worthy of happiness.”

I did this to myself because of the bad choices that had lead me to where I was at that point in time. And because I was using hurtful, unloving words day in and day out, I remained negative and stuck in that horrible, “sunken” place.

Unknowingly, I was causing more and more damage to my life. Telling myself negative things on a daily basis was bringing me nothing but pain and agony. But the truth is that even those lies were lies.

It's only human that we have self-doubt. However, we have to learn how to stop lying to ourselves about our self-worth and overcome the fear that stops us from being great. Here's how.

I’m dumb–lie.

I’m not worthy of happiness–lie.

I will never live a good life–lie.

Every negative and hurtful word I said to myself was a lie.

This is not the way to live. Yes, sometimes we make bad decisions. However, those decisions do not define who you are. Most importantly, they do not define who you want to become.

When you find your mind drifting back to the thought of your poor choices, stop right there and immediately start to build yourself up.

Tell yourself I love you. Tell yourself I am always making the best decision. Tell yourself I am a powerful creator.

Make sure when you say it you are using the two most powerful words in our universe, I AM.

I was being extremely hard on myself, filling my head with things that were detrimental to my confidence and self-esteem. I tore myself down for so long but deep down inside I knew that life was supposed to be more.

I was not created to cry every day. I was not created to carry the weight of the world was on my shoulders. I was not created to treat myself like a piece of shit.

No, no, and hell no.

I am a creator. You are a creator. We were created to create.

Don’t be afraid when I say you are a creator. All this means is that you and I are here to live the best life we can manifest from my hearts and our thoughts.

You can either choose to continue telling yourself lies and putting yourself down or you can tell yourself the truth and become the person you’re absolutely meant to be.

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You are abundant. You are intelligent. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of joy. Happiness is your birthright. You are meant to love yourself better than anyone else ever can.

You must set your intentions on living a good life. You don’t need to try to be more positive, just be positive. You don’t need to try to be loving and kind to yourself, just be loving and kind.

You must put forth the effort and treat yourself better than anyone else could ever treat you in order to truly live. You may not see results right away, but keep going.  With repetition and consistency, you can and will fall in love with who you truly are.

So love the person you are right now.

Don’t say, I will love myself more when I lose weight.

Don’t say, I will love myself more when I start my business.

You must understand that love is unconditional. Love doesn’t have stipulations. If you won’t learn to love the person you are right now, then it will be a long, hard road getting to the point of becoming the person you want to be.

Stop telling yourself lies. Build yourself up by telling yourself the truth and be loving to who you are in this very moment.

Love yourself unconditionally and everything else will fall in line.

Like the Good Witch said to Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, “You had the power all along, my dear.”

Everything you need is already inside you. Always speak of yourself with the highest regard. I AM…. Beautiful, Kind, Loving, Patient, Successful, Wealthy, Healthy, Happy, Smart, Powerful, Forgiving…and the list goes on and on.

So, stop lying to yourself. You are who you choose to be. It is all up to you!

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About Kari

About Kari

I’m a working mama who knows what it's like to feel stuck with your goals, your career, your life. Working on my mindset and challenging myself to make small steps towards a happier life is the best remedy I've found for getting unstuck.

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